Unless you’re taking fists, arms, huge toys etc., you don’t have to clean the whole lower colon. That’s something everyone goes through until you learn to understand what clean feels like for yourself. Sometimes, when douching, water can go up too far in the colon, which causes cramping and sometimes makes its presence known at an inopportune moment. I travel with a device that can transform a hotel shower into a douche and a pocket nozzle I can slap on a standard water bottle. For me, that means the angle is hitting the prostate the lube is doing its job the leverage is good there’s no bad pain and the muscles are relaxed - carnal perfection.Īs for upkeep, as a lifelong bottom, I have special shower enema attachments.
The key is to find the way that taking it up the ass feels awesome for you and to perfect it. Pain says, “add more lube,” “slow down,” “take a deep breath” or any number of other adjustments. In that regard, pain is a useful bit of information because it lets you know you’re doing something wrong. I’ve been told I have amazing muscle control in my ass that essentially allows me to milk a dude while he’s inside me.
In my mind, anyone with the courage to call themselves a bottom should be ready to get fucking pounded. Sure, some might call me a power bottom, but that term is just a way to market yourself to tops. Here’s what they had to say about their lives on the bottom… And so, I spent the last couple of days asking a few of them. These are considered “power bottoms,” or ones who forcefully assume the receptive role.īut I’ve always been curious, how do bottoms manage the responsibilities - from staying hydrated to regulating fiber consumption to self-administering shower nozzle enemas, etc. - of receptive anal sex. As Dan Savage explains, “Some gay and bi men view bottoming as something they are, not just something they do.” Case in point: Studies have been devoted to identifying as a bottom, revealing that it often signifies power, not weakness. (And “verabottoms”: A tally of 60,000 profiles on gay.com revealed that 26 percent preferred top, 32 percent preferred bottom and nearly half considered themselves “versatile.”)īeing a bottom - which can include gays, straights, women and non-binary people - encompasses far more than simply taking it up the ass, though. While no scientific studies have been conducted to determine what percentage of the population prefers any given sexual role, we gays assume the world is made up predominantly of bottoms. Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly get fucked in the ass - it demands foresight and serves absolutely no reproductive purpose, both of which I’m told add to the allure. What didn’t happen - and hasn’t since, really - was me back on the bottom. It’s hard to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed - let alone date them for seven more years afterward - but that’s exactly what happened. Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. Also at play was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, concern of bottoms. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay relationship, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. Meals were rich and plentiful - foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. - all of which I eagerly imbibed. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom.